The secret of a good surprise…

…is that it should be a surprise, but not a shock. We had fun at Jane’s Surprise 30th Birthday Party, but for the first couple of hours Jane was still shaking. This is the kind of “surprise” you have when you’ve been in a car accident. So, for anyone organizing these things for anyone else: consider dropping them a few clues — or be prepared to warm up the defibrillator.